Happy New Year to you my friends! Okay, today’s the big day and it’s going to be a bit intense in a few minutes, so I’m keeping this short. I’m sending this out at exactly 11:43 AM Eastern / 8:43 AM Pacific. Divinity Bootcamp will go live in just a few minutes. Here’s the link to it:

    http://www.divinitybootcamp.com

    If you’re ready to join this massive online Bootcamp and start your New Year 2009 with a bang, there’s a link at the top of the page. If you’re still thinking about it, please take your time and read the product page carefully and find out if the Bootcamp is right for you.

    Again, the cart officially opens at Noon Eastern Time and here’s the link:

    http://www.divinitybootcamp.com

    I’m looking forward to having the greatest time helping you guys inside the Bootcamp.

    Your friend,

    Derek Vitalio

    Derek Vitalio here of Bacchanali.com. First, I’d like to thank you for your emails and responses to my latest video on “How to get a girl from the first date to the bedroom.” For those who haven’t seen it yet, here’s the link again:

    http://bacchanali.com/from-date-to-bed/

    Reading your emails, they reminded me of a personal story in my life.

    I couldn’t help but think back to the time when I first started sown this path and how similar it is to yours. All I wanted back then was to be liked and be attractive to women.

    Years back I moved to Florida to make a radical change in my life… I was determined to get girls at any cost!

    My goal was to make lots of money, get physically built and ripped, live right on the beach, and be around all the beach bikini girls of sunny Ft Lauderdale and IMPRESS them with my cash and my body.

    I started making lots of money and worked out hard two hours a day, but I still was stuck in the same frustrating bind many of you are in right now. I just couldn’t approach women without getting terribly nervous, and I couldn’t keep a conversation going with a girl (and the prettier she was the worst it went). I just didn’t have the know-how or confidence to win the girls.

    I fell into a depressed mood, thinking now I would have to run a rat race to be “successful” and even that wouldn’t solve my problems!

    So I started going out to shopping malls and college campuses on my lunch break and after work to approach women. And it was a total disaster.

    I would see a pretty girl and think about going up to her, and then chicken out. Walk around some more, see another girl, and chicken out. I was spending 3 to 4 hours a DAY walking around chickening out over and over again.

    From there it was a long, hard road of trial and error that took me YEARS of mostly total FAILURE to scratch my way up the ladder.

    (P.S. So no matter how hard and long the road you think you have ahead of you, believe me I had it HARD and LONG and I didn’t have all of the internet resources that you have today to show you the path!!)

    But even when I got successful, my method was based on using canned routines and lines that I had developed over the years and some that I had found on the internet by others.

    Problem was, I didn’t really feel like myself and I would still often get approach anxiety. And many nights I just wasn’t having fun. I knew something had to change.

    Eventually I “snapped” and went “loco”. I sold my car, I sold my apartment, I gave away all of my furniture and I left the United States for a year to South America on a new mission to work with real local Naturals who’s minds weren’t affected by “game theory”.

    I lived in many far away cities to find that “missing mindset”.

    So, why am I telling you all this?

    Since I got back to the U.S. a year ago, I began working intensely on a bootcamp program that will give you that “missing mindset” of the South American naturals I met deep inside Brazil and Colombia (more on that story later).

    This bootcamp program will allow you to meet girls without putting up a fake “pickup persona” and without feeling all the anxiety that comes with that. And guys have been on the waiting list for this for MONTHS now.

    Well, the wait is almost over.

    Before I unleash the mad fury where I lay ALL the cards on the table, I wanted to get directly in tune with your issues and concerns.

    That’s why I had you send me all your questions this past month. Your questions allowed me to talk directly with you while helping me to understand your exact sticking points.

    I still would love to hear from you. If you have questions, suggestions, or any feedback, feel free to leave me a comment below. I really look forward to getting your opinion.

    Your friend,

    Derek Vitalio

    Some weeks ago I sent out an email asking for your questions about what in pickup you’re having trouble with… and I just can’t believe the responses I received from you.

    The emails came FLOODING into my inbox - there were over 387 emails from last week alone. I’m just completely stunned by how many folks took the time to write back to me. Thank you.

    (And by the way, if you haven’t written yet, I would still love to hear from you!)

    I can’t guarantee that I’ll be able to answer all of your questions in my video posts (because of the sheer number of these) but I do read every email I get.

    I’ve noticed from the hundreds of emails most of you are incredibly frustrated with approaching, conversations, and getting the girl to the bed.

    And you would think that with all the hundreds of dating and pickup ebooks and audios out there, it would be pretty easy by now. Buts it’s not.

    Because the bottom line is, you can only get so much from reading a book. More likely than not, a book just complicates things more and fills your head with analysis paralysis.

    You’ll get nowhere unless you have a no-bull, straight-forward, step-by-step system in place with a veteran mentor to guide you. How do I know this?

    I’ve been there.

My Story- The Computer Programmer Geek

    When I moved down to Florida years ago, I was an over-confident greenhorn. I spent hours at the gym, worked my ass off, and rented a swank apartment by the beach. I had the ripped body, the money, and the rocking cool pickup pad. I figured the girls would be throwing themselves at me—haha, needless to say that didn’t work at all! 

    I was a highly-paid computer programmer and all I wanted was just to get laid, to be liked and admired by women. That may sound a bit egotistical, but that’s who I was. Well, as you may have guessed, I didn’t get ANY girls with that—not one. 

    Zilch, nada, the big fat ZERO. I still couldn’t get girls because I didn’t have the time, and when I did go out I still couldn’t approach them. Sometimes I got the courage, but the conversation would quickly fizzle out into total lameness. 

    Those were some of the most frustrating and humiliating months in my life. It got so bad that I almost decided to give up, pack my bags, and head home and live the rest of my days as sex-starved computer geek.

     But then, something happened. All of a sudden… there was hope.

     What happened next was an absolute game-changer. It altered the course of my life, and to this day, I continue to be grateful that things turned out the way they did.

    Here’s the deal, I’ll stop here now, but if you want to find out what happened to me in Florida that changed everything for me, just wait for my next post. In the meantime, I hope you enjoy watching the video I prepared for you today. Again, it’s about getting girls from the first date coffee shop up to the bedroom.

    Thanks for your continuing support. Your emails and comments inspire me to want to get better and better with the materials that I deliver every week. If you have comments, questions, or suggestions, please hit the reply button or leave a comment below. 

    Feeling a sense of Gratitude can really help you out with dating women.

    Having “problems” is good. Imagine if you went to the gym and there were no weights there. How would you be able to grow stronger, better if there was no resistance to go up against?

    If you have a sense of gratitude you’ll go to the gym and instead of thinking, “Oh man I have to do this” you’ll to say to yourself “Yes, resistance, now is the time to improve myself to get better to get healthier!”

    Likewise, you go out to the club, you’re just not feeling it, you’re not in a good state… there’s no reason to sulk or feel negativity about the resistance, have some gratitude. Alright a challenge, resistance, the weights that will build my muscles, Yes, this is what life is about!

    So where everyone else is feeling upset, you’ll be feeling inspiration, joy.

    With a sense of gratitude, meeting resistance in going out and attracting women is not a problem for you, instead you’ll be happy about the opportunity to try again.

    Hell, because lots of famous people who have achieved “everything”, they have money and girls and a big house, well they’re extremely unhappy, addicted to drugs, or passive entertainments or addicted to getting validation and approval… and then there are other people who have very little and they seem to have to a lot of big problems and yet they’re quite happy.

    And the difference is gratitude. Gratitude makes you wealthy right now, it allows you to flood yourself with good emotions. Gratitude means you’re no longer coming from a place of scarcity but a place of abundance and opportunity.

    I’m out of state- oooh resistance– wait, this is an opportunity! I didn’t approach the girl… ooh resistance, another opportunity to get inspired to improve, to lift those weights… I didn’t follow through an interaction… resistance… perfect! That will just feed my drive further.

    Or I could be whining, “Uh uh oho… life in unfair…”

See when you are grateful, you are rich. And when you’re ungrateful, no matter how much money you have or success with women you’ll feel like you have nothing in your life.

    You have to realize that your average person today has a life greater than the greatest kings or Pharoahs at any time in human history. They didn’t have the level of cleanliness we have today, or the wide choice of foods, or the ability for a few hundred dollars to jump on an airplane and just be in some other part of the world a few hours later. Back then if you got sick they’d put some leeches on your body, and that’s if you were part of the upper class, and you’d often just get sicker and die. And if you lived a long life your teeth would certainly be rotted out.

    So we do live in incredible times and we do have a lot of opportunities, in fact most of your challenges and struggles and maybe negativity you feel are simply the call to adventure, to act, to seize this resistance as an opportunity for inspiration and change.

    One way you can express gratitude is just thank the situation around you. Yeah I don’t like my job, but I thank you for giving me this lesson I need to learn today. I thank you for giving me this resistance to push up against and become better. This girl didn’t give me her number… but I thank her for whatever lesson I needed to learn in this moment, I thank her for giving me the resistance I need to grow and become better.

    So cultivate that sense of gratefulness, a sense of abundance, a sense of opportunity, and you’ll just be a happier person all around and girls will feel that. They will gravitate to that because they’ll be wondering… why is this guy so happy- is he rich, is he handsome, is he famous, what’s he got going on? And they’ll want a piece of it, they’ll want to be around you.

    So make that change in your life today, cultivate that sense of gratitude.