My divorced friend is 50 years old and he’d only ever had sex with one woman- his ex-wife. His body language was all off, and he had absolutely no experience with meeting women or dating them. I was basically starting at point zero with this guy.

    He wanted to meet some women his age, but I insisted he could do better. I was going to show him what the Divine Fire was all about.

    So I talked him into meeting me at Lincoln Road in South Beach and I assured him I’d get him a make-out with a 20- year old by the end of the night (in fact, he got two).

    Let me explain exactly what happened…

    I suppose that the idea of a 50-year old geek with no game making out with a girl half his age, in a busy public street sounds impossible to most people. But it’s really not that difficult to pull off.

    In this case I opened a girl in the middle of Lincoln Road, took her hands, spun her around, and made in like I was going to kiss her. I then told her to close her eyes, and then told my 50 year old friend to kiss her. He went for it and she started making out with him. Yes, it really can be that easy. It all depends on what you believe you can do.

    We headed off to a club on Washington Avenue which shall remain unnamed to protect the innocent. I knew the door guy, so we got past the line and inside I grabbed a young freaky chick and said hello and pulled her into my arm. Right away I could tell she was uninhibited, and maybe high on something.

    I lifted her up and in my arms and carried her over to an empty couch in the center of the club and sat her down in my lap.

    I started pushing her off my lap, pulling her back to me all in a forceful body language push-pull. This drove her absolutely crazy.

    She went for my mouth for an open mouth make-out, and I pushed her away and she aggressively came back at me, sitting on my lap and trying to force the kiss. Instead I picked her up and put her into the lap of my 50 year old friend who was watching it all go down.

    “Kiss her!” I commanded into his ear. He went for a week makeout attempt, but she plunged right in. I believe she needed the validation I was denying her, but it worked!

    There’s no reason the old guy couldn’t have pulled off the same simple moves I was doing. There’s no reason an older man without looks can’t hook up with a younger woman, or why a young guy couldn’t do the same; the limitations are largely inside your own head. Both girls were 100% willing to play tonsil toss with this guy despite his old age and dorky dress style. Did I mention he was an accountant?

    Of course, we’ve grown mentally rigid in our beliefs, our childlike playfulness and brazenness beaten out of us.

    But it doesn’t have to be this way. I invite you to rediscover “The Divine Fire” inside of you, which is the theme of my new online bootcamp, which you can take at HOME and at your own pace. Approaching, natural conversation, body language and sexual escalation are all covered - I’m giving you *everything* I know and holding nothing back.

    I’ve also thrown in a bucket load of bonus books and audio programs. Unfortunately, the launch ends in just a few days and I have only 67 seats left. You don’t want you to lose out on this, believe me.

    http://www.divinitybootcamp.com

    Best regards,

    Derek

    P.S. You have a FULL YEAR to try the online bootcamp out… if it’s not for you, just let me know and you’ll give you a FULL refund and you can KEEP all the bonus programs. I know that sounds crazy, but I really believe in my program. Check it out, really…
http://www.divinitybootcamp.com

    Take a look at this video clip from the movie “School of Rock” starring Jack Black.

    Most guys when they go out to meet girls (like 99% of them) are like Principle Rosaline Mullins, played by actress Joan Cusack.  She’s wound up tight, follows ALL the rules and procedures, sticks to the lesson plan, and feels pressure of the uptight parents wanting everything to be perfect which has made her into someone she never wanted to be: a wound up bitch.

    Now take a look at your typical guy who goes out to meet girls.  His head may be packed with lines, theories and strategies, but he’s just like Principle Mullins.  He’s wound up tight inside, wants to follow all the rules and routines of complex pickup schematics and “do it right”, feels stifled and choked inside, and is needy for approval and the blessing of all the girls he sees and talks to.  The result: his game is stiff and stifled and he has massive approach anxiety. 

    That’s how most guys go out to meet girls; they’re just like Principle Mullins.  But you won’t get laid if you’re like that inside.

    Now take a look at Jack Black.  The guy is freely expressive and in the moment, almost to the point of self-delusion.  He does a cool conversation “routine” but it’s spontaneous and in the moment so it comes off as genuine and authentic.  He’s not after the children’s or parent’s approval, he’s just being himself, whatever they might think.  And he’s LOUD.  He’s physically loud and expressive, and his voice is loud and expressive. 

    In short, he’s everything that Principal Mullins is not.

    You need a good dose of Jack Black in you when you go out.  You need to be the guy that creates the party.  You need to be the guy that talks nonsense and expresses himself physically without that needy approval seeking and self-monitoring. 

    If your voice is loud, if you’re body language is open and expressive, if you’re coming up with silly conversation nonsense in the moment, if you’re energy is positive and upbeat, then right there girls will want to be a part of that.  They’ll be opening YOU and following YOU around.

    Why?  Because it’s so hard to find a guy like that today.  Everyone is stifled like Principal Mullins… including the girls themselves!  The girls you meet want to be around a guy who is happy and free.  They want to meet a guy who will take them on an adventure.  They want to meet a guy who will give them permission to step out of their stifled Principal Mullins persona and into their Jack Black wild side. 

    But the girls need YOU to go there first.  And if you do, they’ll follow you all the way to the bedroom. 

    So what kind of guy are you going to be?  If you go out as Principle Mullins more often than not, you need to make some changes that requires extra guidance than what an ebook or pickup line can provide.  And that’s what my upcoming bootcamp is all about.

    Now it seems to be a popular pastime to design pickup methods, super pickup systems, and elaborate psychological models of attraction, which is all well and good. I don’t discourage anyone from exploring the map.

    But you can be a great philosopher, you can intellectually figure out many things, you can create models and systems all with very logical, consistent reasoning.

    And it will appear like a model of the truth. But it’s not the truth. These systems have been manufactured by your mind. They’ve been borrowed from other people.

    In contrast, an experience, a real experience in the field which you’ve seen with your own eyes, felt with you own hands, been there in your own body, which has been revealed to you… it is your authentic experience, an authentic truth. You have come to experience reality, you have come to see the truth of pickup itself.

    Reality is in every moment original. You cannot plan it, you cannot map it in every detail, you cannot preplan every possibility of it. Every new moment is as no other moment that came before it. It is absolutely fresh and new and you have to live it to experience it. There is no other way of knowing it.

    For example, a blind man can think about colors like the color red. He can write research papers about red, how the light spectrum is reflected and bounces off the eye to create the illusion of red in the human brain. He can give great lectures write great doctrines about the wavelength of the light that produces red. But the blind man still doesn’t know what red is. He has no eyes to see it.

    Likewise, the only way to know sex is to have sex, the only way to know mountain climbing is to start climbing mountains, the only way to know swimming is to swim. And the only way to know the party is to live the party.

    It’s your methods, your over planning, your attraction systems that make it unreal. But if you live it, if you live experience to the fullest, you’ll be able to come to know and understand what had been unthinkable by your methods and plans and systems.

    In short what I’m saying, the field is king. Don’t be stuck in front of the computer all day or reading forum posts or articles, go out and become one with the party.

    Feel free to leave a comment below!

    Hi boys and girls welcome to Bacchanali.com, my name is Derek Vitalio and today I want to talk about how being in the party or nightclub is much like swimming.

    Imagine you have never learned to swim and you jump into a deep swimming pool. The first thought that crosses your mind is that you’ll drown.

    So what is the best course of action to take then once you’ve jump in the water?

    If you feel fear and panic and start thrashing around, you’ll sink to the bottom and drown.

    If you freak out and start screaming you’ll only gulp down water and drown.

    If you go inside your head and start planning out which strokes you’ll try, it will be too late and you’ll drown.

    But if you just relax and trust the water, you’ll float.

    There’s little difference between a swimmer and a non-swimmer. The swimmer has learned to trust the pool’s water, while the non-swimmer has not.

    The canned “techniques” or “routines” of swimming - the basic strokes - can be taught in an hour or two. That’s not what’s important though.

    It’s that sense of fear and distrust of the water that is more difficult to let go of.

    The non-swimmer feels fear, a panic that the pool is going to drown him. So of course the pool drowns him. His mind has created his own destiny.

    The swimmer’s basic treading routine may be only slightly different from the non-swimmer’s panicked thrashing to stay afloat, but because the swimmer trusts the water and doesn’t fear it, he stays afloat.

    It’s much the same in the party or nightclub. Your techniques and routines are not as important as simply trusting yourself and having 100% belief that you will not drown, that you will be okay if you just relax and trust yourself float.

    But if doubt arises and you go inside your head and think, “How is this possible, why is this interaction going so well, what do I say next?” immediately you will start drowning.

    If you go inside your head and start planning out what to say, or start second-guessing yourself, you will start drowning.

    So just like the swimmer who trusts the water, trust and having 100% belief in yourself is what’s most important in a party or club. Once you let go of the distrust, the panic, and the fear, you’ll see how easy it is to have great interactions with women.

    And only once that foundation is set, do you want to start adding the advanced breast and butterfly strokes.

    Has this ever happened to you?

    You have some “grand strategy” of openers, lines, and routines for working the club tonight.

    You get there, but you don’t open the first girl you see.

    Wait, you see a good set… you hesitate for a minute for “the right moment”, but then the girls by random chance walk away. Damn!

    That’s alright… you walk around the room but for some reason now you’re still not opening.

    You begin to panic—this is just not what you planned.

    You begin to feel frustrated with yourself for not opening.

    And because of the frustration you feel even worse—you’re not even “in state” anymore. How are you possibly going to open girls now??

    You had to pay a $10 cover instead of $5- you are frustrated.

    You’re not wearing what you imagine are your best clothes- you are frustrated.

    You didn’t approach the girl like you thought you would– you are frustrated.

    You are no longer in a good state – you are even more frustrated.

    Now even more negative emotions go through your head—damn I fucked up, and I had such big plans for the night, even worse!

    I hate to admit it, but this has happened to ME in the past more than I can count. So I know how it feels.

    Here’s the deal though…

    This frustration, fear, worry, and negative feelings in the club or bar come out because of your attachment.

    Attachment to your “grand plan” or strategy.

    But if you drop your “grand plan” for the night and instead expect nothing, then nothing can frustrate you.

    If you don’t cling to anything, you can’t feel disappointed.

    Your clinging deflates your state because the social dynamics in the club are in constant flux and you cannot cling or hold onto it.

    The situation will be constantly slipping out of your hands, foiling your thought-out plans.

    Expecting outcomes in a club is like trying to hold a waterfall in your arms that is rushing toward some unknown outcome. And you get frustrated and then your internal state fizzles.

    But if you don’t expect anything, if you have no “plans for the night” to hold onto, then nothing can frustrate you.

    Frustration and negative states and thoughts are purely a product of your expectations.

    Try this instead: don’t go into the club with any “grand plans” inside your head of what you’re going to do that night.

    Don’t go in with any thinking-based strategies in your head AT ALL.

    Instead, focus on what you FEEL in your BODY.

    Aim to feel a pure happy, joyous state- for no reason at all. Just because you’re alive. Or just because you get fun and joy out of watching others around you, the people you don’t even know, having fun and joy.

    Smile with your mouth. Force yourself even.

    And do that for 30 minutes. Can you go to a club and stand there, like a complete dork, smiling and feeling joyous for 30 minutes? Maybe getting onto the dance floor and dancing like a crazy person… for just YOURSELF and for your own enjoyment?

    Then, even without all of your plans and expectations, even walking up to a beautiful woman will not frighten you.

    And only then, only once you come home from the club feeling rejuvenated and your batteries recharged from feeling such a great state all night, do you want to maybe consider any “planning” or “strategies”.