Gratitude is the secret ingredient of success with girls
By Derek Vitalio 
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Feeling a sense of Gratitude can really help you out with dating women.
Having “problems” is good. Imagine if you went to the gym and there were no weights there. How would you be able to grow stronger, better if there was no resistance to go up against?
If you have a sense of gratitude you’ll go to the gym and instead of thinking, “Oh man I have to do this” you’ll to say to yourself “Yes, resistance, now is the time to improve myself to get better to get healthier!”
Likewise, you go out to the club, you’re just not feeling it, you’re not in a good state… there’s no reason to sulk or feel negativity about the resistance, have some gratitude. Alright a challenge, resistance, the weights that will build my muscles, Yes, this is what life is about!
So where everyone else is feeling upset, you’ll be feeling inspiration, joy. 
With a sense of gratitude, meeting resistance in going out and attracting women is not a problem for you, instead you’ll be happy about the opportunity to try again.
Hell, because lots of famous people who have achieved “everything”, they have money and girls and a big house, well they’re extremely unhappy, addicted to drugs, or passive entertainments or addicted to getting validation and approval… and then there are other people who have very little and they seem to have to a lot of big problems and yet they’re quite happy.
And the difference is gratitude. Gratitude makes you wealthy right now, it allows you to flood yourself with good emotions. Gratitude means you’re no longer coming from a place of scarcity but a place of abundance and opportunity.
I’m out of state- oooh resistance– wait, this is an opportunity! I didn’t approach the girl… ooh resistance, another opportunity to get inspired to improve, to lift those weights… I didn’t follow through an interaction… resistance… perfect! That will just feed my drive further.
Or I could be whining, “Uh uh oho… life in unfair…”
See when you are grateful, you are rich. And when you’re ungrateful, no matter how much money you have or success with women you’ll feel like you have nothing in your life.
You have to realize that your average person today has a life greater than the greatest kings or Pharoahs at any time in human history. They didn’t have the level of cleanliness we have today, or the wide choice of foods, or the ability for a few hundred dollars to jump on an airplane and just be in some other part of the world a few hours later. Back then if you got sick they’d put some leeches on your body, and that’s if you were part of the upper class, and you’d often just get sicker and die. And if you lived a long life your teeth would certainly be rotted out.
So we do live in incredible times and we do have a lot of opportunities, in fact most of your challenges and struggles and maybe negativity you feel are simply the call to adventure, to act, to seize this resistance as an opportunity for inspiration and change.
One way you can express gratitude is just thank the situation around you. Yeah I don’t like my job, but I thank you for giving me this lesson I need to learn today. I thank you for giving me this resistance to push up against and become better. This girl didn’t give me her number… but I thank her for whatever lesson I needed to learn in this moment, I thank her for giving me the resistance I need to grow and become better.
So cultivate that sense of gratefulness, a sense of abundance, a sense of opportunity, and you’ll just be a happier person all around and girls will feel that. They will gravitate to that because they’ll be wondering… why is this guy so happy- is he rich, is he handsome, is he famous, what’s he got going on? And they’ll want a piece of it, they’ll want to be around you.
So make that change in your life today, cultivate that sense of gratitude.
November 16th, 2008 at 12:03 pm
I am grateful that you gave that speech Today.
May the Goddesses be with you!!!
Roland
November 17th, 2008 at 4:29 am
Thanks so much Derek
I have been going through a lot in the past few days…
and yes i’ve been “whining”…lol
Thanks for bringing me back to earth and to start thanking God for my situation now….
if not for his grace it could actually be worse
Thanks again
November 17th, 2008 at 11:12 pm
“The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe.”
-Deepak Chopra, Author-
November 20th, 2008 at 12:06 am
I just climbed a mountain… and got a little sunburn. I’m grateful though… !
November 20th, 2008 at 10:46 am
Thanks Derek… I needed your wisdom. I have a stupid tendency to blame myself when i “feel” that i missed an opportunity with a woman. (Let’s say one passes you in the street and they give a smile to you or give you a sign of some sort) I can’t count on my fingers how many times i dropped to ball to follow through on an interaction. And afterwards i’m just left with regret. But i guess if you spent your whole life chasing everyone who gives you a smile it would be stressful! It’s self-destructive. I feel the art of seduction is not only about being a natural, you become a better human being. You become a happier person because you become the person you’re meant to be. Thanks for your great videos. God Bless you… your friend always Peter
November 23rd, 2008 at 2:40 pm
I have been reading your letters for a couple of months. Every time I had improved myself in relationships with women, but this advice is more than that. This advice helped me to find again something I have losted a long time ago…
I am talking about gratitude. I think that gratitude is a secret ingredient in everything in life that you do… If you aren’t grateful and happy with things that you do, don’t do it…
Thank you Derek
November 25th, 2008 at 12:55 am
Hey Peter, that sense of regret and blame only further pulls you out of the happy state that attracts women. You’re not really chasing the smiles… you’re just being FREE to smile back and say hello. Being FREE to be yourself without social conditioning stifling. You’re not chasing them. And if you don’t respond it’s okay, no reason to beat yourself up. Be happy and make it your mission to make girls happy in return, don’t try to get anything from them.
November 28th, 2008 at 6:36 am
Why do english girls hate indian guys ? I think once they sense i have an indian accent they think “oooh hes form a 3rd fucking world” and walk away. I dont know why english girls are so racist. I have opened 300 girls in england with direct openers and they just smile and say i am busy or i gotto run or i have to meet friends or thankyou for the compliment.
English white girls hate indian nationals game doesnt help
I hate this shit its doing my fucking head in
Kev
November 28th, 2008 at 6:38 am
Derek i am 45 years old and still a virgin i cry at night because i cant pull girls and all these young kids in there 20s can pull girls and slept with loads of women. I hate being indian.
Why did my fucking parents make me a fucking loser i hate this fucking world.
I am sorry i am drunk and crying
Kev
November 28th, 2008 at 5:09 pm
yo dude what u on about, white girls love Indian guys in the UK, they absolutely love em, the only ones that don’t are the BNP members and the chavz and black wannabes, trust my friend if anything u got an edge that makes it much easier for u. just try workin on ur natural game and learn to love urself for who u are, fuck what everyone else says, yo u even got a edge with Indian girls and i think me and you both know how hot they are down in the UK.
November 29th, 2008 at 10:40 am
Hey, Kev, never too late to start, man. John’s right, just recognize your edge, start liking yourself. I mean you can’t go natural if you despise yourself, the neg will bubble to the surface. You’re unique, you deserve to be happy, and there’s a woman out there, just waiting for you.
Derek, thanks for sharing all these with us. You’ve been a big help, keep up the great job!
November 30th, 2008 at 2:43 pm
Hey Derek!
I haven’t checked out this web much.
With your help and the forum I’ve certainly experienced a new level of life experiences with women over the the last three years. However I’ve been on abaout a 10 month hiatus with a gret little #1.
Now I have shifted my focus off the game and into working with this north American Indian medicine man. The guy is in his sixties and was given to a shaman at age twelve. It’s been a powerful experience.
Through this interaction I’ve been re-exposed to the concepts of universal power and sorcery. The bit above concerning gratitude for challenges was perfect for me today. As always, I wish you well.
Thank you.
My best to you,
Alaskanmana
December 1st, 2008 at 9:48 pm
Alaskanmana, long time no hear. To everyone else, this is a guy who goes a long waaay back on the VIP Lounge. Good to hear you found a little cuddle bug man.
December 2nd, 2008 at 12:17 pm
i like the movie and his way of reacting
December 27th, 2008 at 11:33 pm
hey kev,,,i learned long ago that if i cut back on the alcohal a little bit it dose me better,,, ,i give the woman a couple more drinks 1 for me 3 for her