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    Our parents, teachers, our friends, have all taught us since our childhood that you have to prepare, study, get an education, prepare, and study some more so that when you grew up you could have a beautiful house, a nice car, get respect from others, have success, have money, attract women.

    But you were taught that to get this success you will have to pay for it.

    You will have to sacrifice your childhood and your youth, studying, with your nose to the books, so that when you hit your 20s and 30s you’ll have all the pleasures of the world.

    Of course, then you reach middle-age. Now you’re expected to keep sacrificing and keep working so that you can support yourself for when you retire and to retire comfortably.

    And then once you’re old and ready to retire, people will tell you well you could die at any moment, so prepare for the NEXT world, to pray, to become religious, to prepare for the afterlife.

    So we go on sacrificing our youth for old age. We go on sacrificing living life today for a future scenario fantasy others tell us we have to achieve.

    But then your whole life is gone in always preparing for something else. 

    It’s like that with dating and seduction too, or at least with most guys I’ve met– we’re always preparing and studying what to say to the girl, what to do, how to act, putting off the adventure of tonight for a far off fantasy future where we’re pickup supermen in our imaginations.

    And yet while we study pickup, we grow older, we lose time that we will never get back, always preparing and not doing, not living life in the here and now. Not going out to meet women in the here and now.

    And the more you prepare, the more skillful you become in preparing- that’s it. You end up training your brain to be really good at preparing, at being in the mindset of always preparing of always having your nose in the books or more likely at the computer screen.

    But although you become skillful at preparing, you’re never ready to live. You’re only more ready to prepare. Everything is just a sacrifice, there’s no time to enjoy tonight. And that’s how our lives are missed.

    That’s how most of us have been taught in this society to put off today and prepare, prepare, prepare.

    So, if you want to enjoy meeting women, having success with women, less preparation is needed then you might imagine. In fact preparation will get in your way—you only need very little preparation, maybe none at all.

    If you want to enjoy yourself tonight, go enjoy it! Go out and just have a little faith in yourself that you probably already know as much as you need to know, at least enough to just enjoy yourself whatever happens.

    The grass is already green, the flowers have bloomed, the Red Robins are calling you, the present has just arrived. Do it tonight, do it this weekend. Go out. Make THIS day glorious, even if you gloriously “bomb”, see what you can do dropping your preparations and going out with the purpose to have FUN no matter what happens. 

    But if you become a skillful preparer, efficient and meticulous in all your preparations, writing out pages and pages of pickup notes and theories and routines, and memorizations, and reviewing, you will always prepare but you will never go on the journey.

    Showing up is what’s important in life, not the preparing. So you know what you need to do. Go out, show up, make life happen! Make it yours. 

    A lot of guys think that they can’t feel happy at a party without first talking to and picking up some hot girls.

    It seems impossible – how can you feel the party and be smiling and dancing and happy and excited in a bar or club or party without having girls or friends around you?

    Well, you can sing walking along the street without an audience can’t you? You can play sports without a bench of cheering fans can’t you?

    So why can’t you enjoy yourself at a party, singing, laughing, smiling, clapping, bopping, dancing – without a girl?

    See you’re mind has been conditioned wrongly- you think you can only give out good energy and feel happy when there’s a girl there approving you, giving you validation. That’s not the case though.

    You could be sitting alone in your room, radiating great energy, like you’ve just won the lottery, feeling happy, for no particular reason. In fact I recommend that you practice feeling in a great state even when you have no particular “reason” to do so, your only reason is that, heck it feels good.

    In the beginning it can feel unusual because you start thinking, “Um I’m feeling good for no reason, am I delusional?” because you’ve always been taught that you can only feel good if you get a raise or someone tells you you’re doing a good job, or you bought a new toy or clothes, or a girl smiles at you—you’ve always been taught that you need outside stimulation and validation from outside of yourself to feel good.

    But happiness and joy and sexual energy that is created within you, that fantastic energy that you create on your own is the real power, the real source of capacity and you’ll find that any women near you will be suddenly drawn to you, suddenly grabbing for a piece of that magic you’ve found that remains so elusive to them.

    Just talk to a woman and she’ll start feeling very happy for no reason at all, because your state will influence her state, and if your state is powerful enough it will overwhelm her state and she’ll want to cling to you for more of it.

    So bring celebration to your life, bring aliveness to your life, don’t be looking for someone else to do it or for some material thing like a new car or pair of shoes to fill it, or validation from a girl or a boss to do it for you, bring the deserts, the chocolate cakes, the ice cream, the wine, the garden flowers to your life, bring the dancing, the celebration bring it all and people will want to join in YOUR party.

    Peacocking makes you stand out from the pack and it shows that you’re a bit of a rebel.  For instance, covering your body in milk chocolate will get you a lot of attention.

    When being in a party or club or social situation its really important to live in the moment, in the now, in the today and not to have your head wishing and wanting about the future.

    99% of guys in a party situation are discontent with the present with where they are in that moment.

    He’s wishing there were more girls there, he’s wishing the music wasn’t so loud, he’s wishing he was in another club, he’s wishing the weather was nicer, he’s wishing he was somewhere else ideally, he’s wishing he was talking to the hot girl instead of the one he’s talking to, he’s wishing he’d meet his dream girl, or maybe next week things will be better.

    If only those wishes were to happen he would feel happy.

    So his head is not in the party right now as it stands. Instead he’s resisting the moment and his head is in a future scenario of a wishing and wanting.

    Or he could be living completely in the future, dreaming about what a great pickup artist he’s going to become rather than what he can do TODAY. He imagines about his future fantasy harem of girlfriends and what they’ll all look like and do with him, rather than the girl he can meet today. Or he’s dreaming about all the money he’ll eventually make once he gets the raise or makes that career move which will finally give him permission to go out and meet girls.

    His mind is stuck in a loop imagining about the future and not living in the moment. He has desires, he has hopes, but he never lives.

    Instead of making the most of the current party or situation or approaching girls without the “perfect plan”, he postpones, he says “tomorrow”, “tomorrow”, “tomorrow”.

    And it’s always tomorrow, it’s never the here and now.

    And because of his desires and hopes and fantasies and postponing and endless preparing he goes on missing the present, he goes on missing the happiness and joy of living for the now and what can become right now.

    Your wishing and wanting mind will burden you, always dwelling on whether your grand plans will happen or not. Then every moment of your life becomes this head-ache, this desiring tension about a possible coming future where you are using everything in the moment only as a means to an end.

    Don’t be hampered by a way or a path, just be here right now. Don’t live in a house you haven’t built yet, be here right now. Don’t try to be going anywhere, just be here right now. Just be here as much as you possible can. In the party, just be there don’t try to resist your situation, just let go and allow yourself to enjoy it for all of its delight and its warts.

    Just experience it, don’t create so many rules about what you have to do or achieve to enjoy the party of today, or that you need to make a lot of money first, or that you need the perfect pickup plan, or that you need to develop your skills first, just enjoy the party today.

    Like if you ask a painter, a real painter who enjoys painting for the sake of painting, then he enjoys the action of painting in the moment, he’s not all caught up thinking about how much money he’ll one day sell this painting for 20 years from now. If his head was completely into some far off goal and not just enjoying the experience of painting in the now, the painting would be a chore, a burden, simply a task he had to do to make money.

    Meeting girls is the same way. If you’re thinking into the future it becomes a chore, a task, a burden. But if you allow yourself to be happy, right now, today, like a true painter who loves the act of painting, if you truly can come to love the experience of going out and enjoying life – if you meet a girl or not – that kind of living in the moment is the prerequisite to being successful with women.

    So watch yourself. Whenever you’re preparing too much, whenever you’re dreaming too much, living in your imagination too much, loving a woman you haven’t met yet, not going to today’s party in the name of some future goal, you are straying from the path of success with women and life. You only sabotage your own goals when you prepare and think about them too much.

    So have total love and passion for today, for the party of today.